I’ve never been the sort of person who fears asking for help. I achieved so much in school by being unafraid to ask questions after class, or even during class. This trait has served me well in the working world as well.

But taking all of that into consideration, I’m still a little bit uncomfortable asking for help when it comes to the adoption process. When it comes to personal matters, it’s somehow more difficult. I think it’s because we’re generally so self-sufficient. We do our own work on our house and in our yard. We hire stuff out when necessary. If we can’t find something in stores we build, or make it. And making a baby out of popsicle sticks, duct tape and glue isn’t quite going to work!

Our social worker has been wonderful. We completed the initial home study process in December of 2017 and she’s been in touch since then to check in on us. I spoke with her just the other day so I could gather a few more ideas for agencies, organizations and lawyers who can help facilitate a domestic adoption for us. I’ve been told that it helps to be on multiple lists and to get in touch with multiple people and organizations who have connections.

So, I’ve already reached out to a few and it seems we are still coming up short in terms of finding places who can/will work with us, which brings me to the point of this blog post. PLEASE share your stories with us! If you have friends or family who’ve adopted and they’re willing to share info about how it worked, we’d love to know more!

Do you know of an organization who helps birthmothers through the process? How about someone who has used a specific agency? Leave us a comment or send us an email, we’d love to hear from you.